We never know which one comes first, the death or tomorrow. Unexpected things happen every day, sometimes are good, and sometimes are extremely miserable. For instance, tsunami, violent earthquake, car accident. Those tragedy can make people lose their live in a flash. However, their family member and the one they love will suffer the unimaginably painful. Some of them will commit suicide to end this life, which we called indirectly related death.
我們永遠不知道哪個先到，死亡或者明天。每天都會發生無法預料的事情，有時是好的，有時特別悲劇。例如大海嘯，大地震，車禍。這些悲劇會讓人們瞬間斃命。然而，他們的家人和愛人就會遭受到無法想象的痛苦。有些人會自殺來結束這種生活，這種我們叫做間接死亡。The first thing we need to do is adjust mental attitudes when we lose someone we love. Most people don’t want to accept the reality that their lover were gone forever, they don’t want to keep awake to suffer the painful. Therefore, they drink alcohol to get themselves numb, so that they don’t need to face the truth. But too much wines will hurt their body, which might cause some illness to death. What they need to do is try something can divert attention from painful, like go to trip or doing sport.當我們失去愛的人的時候第一件事該做的就是調整心態。很多人都不願意接受自己的愛人永遠的離開了，他們不願意清醒地去承受這種痛苦。因此他們用酒精來麻木自己，這樣他們就不用面對事實。但是酗酒會傷害他們的身體，有可能會得致命的病。他們需要做的是能夠分散他們痛苦的事情，像旅遊和做運動。Second, some people are extreme, they think they can’t live anymore without their lover, they will leave everything behind and commit a suicide. Those type of people are mentally weak, they can’t go out of sadness, hence, their family members should pay more attention to them. Before they can have a brighter outlook, one of a family member or friends should be with them to avoid them to hurt themselves.第二，有些人很極端，他們認爲沒有愛人就活不下去了，他們會拋開一切去自殺。這些人心理很脆弱，他們無法走出悲痛，因此，他們的家人應該多看着他們。在他們能夠看開之前，得有個家人或者朋友陪着他們，防止他們傷害自己。As has been noted, lots of indirectly related death can be avoid. We need to look for a bright side, but not to the dark side. People should take care for each other when they fall on hard times. If indirectly related death happens, miserable life will never go away, it will only get worse.
