怎樣和異性搭訕纔不尷尬？
1. Start with a handshake
1.先握手
A proper handshake conveys trust, respect, and equality. Make eye contact, smile, and shake from the elbow.
1.適當的握手能表達信任、尊重和平等，要有眼神交流、微笑，握手時肘部用力。
2. First, look for singletons
2.首先，要選獨處的人
People standing by themselves are the best option to approach. Two people standing shoulder-to-shoulder and groups of people that are closed off in a tight circle are likely not open to newcomers.
獨自站着的人最適合接近。肩並肩站着的兩個人和圍成小圈子的一羣人可能不歡迎外人。
3. Practice on Your Server
3.找服務員練習
If what you’re most nervous about is being ignored, test the waters by chatting up a waiter, waitress, barista, or bartendert.
如果你害怕被人忽視，可以找男女服務員、咖啡師或者酒保搭話。
4. Offer your name, and repeat theirs
4.主動說出自己的名字並重復對方的名字
Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language. Start a conversation like “Hi, my name is Jane. What’s yours?” When the person responds, repeat their name back: “Nice to meet you, John.”
你要記住對一個人而言名字是所有語言中最好聽最重要的聲音。你可以這樣開始聊天：“嗨，我叫Jane，你叫什麼名字？”對方回答之後可以重複一遍：“John，很高興見到你。”
5. Acknowledge your acquaintances
5.承認跟別人見過面
If you’ve met someone before reintroduce yourself and say where the two of you met. No matter whether they remember you or not, they’ll be flattered you remembered them.
如果你之前見過某個人，可以重新介紹自己並且說出之前在哪兒見過。無論對方是否記得你，他們都會很開心你記得他們。
6. Consider what you have in common
6.找到你們的共同點
After the name game, launch into something you and the person you’re talking to can bond over.
一場著名比賽之後，聊點能讓你和跟你聊天的人建立起親密關係的話題。
7. Watch your body language
7.注意自己的肢體語言
To look most at ease, lace your fingers together in front of you. Lean in to show interest.
爲了看起來很放鬆，可以把手指交織放在身前，身體前傾表現出你感興趣。
8. Don’t fire off too many questions
8.不要拋出太多問題
Give your new acquaintance enough information about yourself that they can comfortably ask their own questions.
跟新認識的人說足夠多關於你的事，讓他們能輕鬆地問你一些問題。
9. Draw on their passions
9.利用他們的熱情
Don’t be afraid to ask follow-up questions like,” Why?” or, “How’d you get started with that?” to encourage them to keep speaking if you’ve hit on a subject the person seems passionate about.
如果你偶然找到一個對方好像很感興趣的話題，不要害怕去問下面這樣的問題：“爲什麼？”或者“你是怎麼開始的？”來鼓勵他們繼續說下去。
10. Throw out a hypothetical question
10.拋出一個假想的問題
If you’re in a group setting, such as a wedding table or circle of co-workers, ask a quirky hypothetical question for everyone to discuss.
如果你跟一羣人在聊天，比如婚禮的酒桌上或者是一羣同事，可以問一個古怪的假想出來的問題讓大家討論一下。
11. Get out gracefully
11.完美收場
When you notice a conversation starting to slow down, end it on a high note. At a natural pause in the conversation and smile. And, of course, repeat the person’s name: “I’m so glad to have heard about your trip. It was great talking to you, John!”
當你注意到對話開始變慢時要完美收場。對話時自然地停頓並微笑，當然還要重複一下對方的名字：“我真的很高興聽你說旅行的事，John，跟你聊天真好!”
