時尚雙語:如何更好的與女生交往

Although interacting with girls seems like an intimidating endeavor to many guys, adhering to certain principles allows it to be a more comfortable and enjoyable experience for everyone involved.

Steps:

's important to maintain self confidence by being yourself around girls. If you adopt an alternate personality to attract girls, you will eventually be weighed down with the feeling that your true self isn't good enough. It may help to develop and improve your social skills, but any girls that don't appreciate you for who you are don't deserve your attention.

ect all girls stand a much better chance of making a good overall impression if you treat girls that don't interest you just as nicely as those that do. This doesn't mean that you need to talk to or flirt with every girl, but don't ignore them or treat them dismissively. Don't talk to a girl about other girls' attractiveness; it's distasteful and can degrade the girl's opinion of herself. You generally shouldn't talk about past relationships you've had, or other girls that interest you; it detracts from building a new relationship.

eye girls like it when you can't take your eyes off them, but not when you're staring at their boobs. Although there are some girls that may enjoy such attention, you won't offend anyone by focusing on her face instead. Do not ogle her. Just remember to use discretion and show proper respect.

them feel s like it when you're forward but not in a creepy way. Smile at her in a way that's clear, friendly, and/or playful. If you feel compelled to honesty, you can offer a sincere compliment. For example, you could say "Did anyone ever tell you that you have a beautiful smile?" Eyes are another good one- they're not the easiest thing to notice, and it shows you were looking at her face. Select something good that is reserved for her only; it will make her feel wonderfully special, admired, and beautiful.

a s love guys that are polite and courteous. It's just a matter of doing simple things like holding doors open for them and being respectful in other ways. Some claim chivalry is dead, but if you believe that, then you're going to have some problems getting a girl's interest.

your manners in h the foul language. Don't pick your nose, scratch your butt, pick at your body in any way, fart, or burp, cough, or sneeze with your mouth wide open, etc. Gross her out, and you'll be lucky if she ever looks at you again.

her g funny is one of the most attractive qualities a guy can have, and if you're not "handsome", a girl will usually overlook that! If you're not goofy but you have a very dry, sarcastic sense of humor, use that. Just Watch your timing and try not to be too goofy, or you may make a fool of yourself. It's okay to tease her a little, but generally not about her appearance.

cewhen you're having a conversation and she seems uncomfortable, change the subject. Watch her movements, if she's shifting her weight a lot and not making eye contact, chances are she's uncomfortable.

gnizethat physical contact should be limited by the state of your relationship.

*Acquaintances — A handshake when introducing yourself is probably a reasonable limit for a first meeting. You can also subtly brush your hand against her hand or arm.

*Casual Friends or Prospective Dates — You could try something like touching her hair or playfully poking her in the side and asking if she is ticklish. This is generally considered flirting, and if a girl doesn't appreciate your advances, it's best to apologize and refrain from making similar contact.

*Good Friends — It is generally acceptable to give friendly hugs to girls that you know fairly well, even if you aren't a couple. Just be sensitive to the girl's feelings about it; pressuring her to hug you will make her uncomfortable.

*Boyfriend/Girlfriend — When you've grown closer, you can hold her hand or wrap your arm around her shoulders or waist when you're walking together. With her consent, you can also kiss her.

Tips:
Be the same around her and your friends.
Never use the words "hot" or "sexy" unless it's in a joking fashion.
Don't ever tell her that she looks bad.
Don't try too hard. She'll notice.
Don't panic if you do something embarrassing. A lot of girls find that really cute.
Manners: use them! If you don't have them, then get them!

Warnings:
Do not make sexist jokes.
Don't focus too much on one girl if she isn't enjoying the extra attention. She may get annoyed, and it will likely hurt your relationship.
Never tell any of your friends what happens.
Get to know her friends and be friends with them. This will show her that you're nice and friendly.
There is nothing wrong with trying to make her feel special long into a relationship, but trying to kiss up to her, especially within the first few weeks and months of knowing her, will do more harm than good, and you will be labeled more as a friend who tries to buy her attention than a potential mate.

對很多男生而言與女生交往簡直是噩夢，雖然大家都很渴望。遵循以下幾個簡單的原則將會給你帶來很多愉快的體驗。

【原則】

1.做你自己。在與女生們交往的過程中自信是非常重要的，而做你自己恰恰可以提供你所需要的自信。如果你通過佯裝別人去吸引她們的話，到頭來你會感到很失落——你真實的自我差勁到無法吸引女生。做你自己可能會培養你的社交技巧。請記住，任何不欣賞你的女生都不值得你關注。

2.同樣地尊重每個女生。如果你將恐龍和美女一視同仁的話，這會給她們帶來深刻的印象，你也會因此得到更好的機 會。這並不意味着你得同每個女生閒扯或調情，但請不要無視恐龍們的存在，更不要去鄙視她們。不要同女生們談論其他女生的魅力，這會讓她們感到厭惡，甚至覺 得身價降低。原則上別扯你的那些風流往事，或其他的女友候選人，這對建立新的關係是非常不利的。

3.眉來眼去。如果你的目光已經無法從女生身上移開，沒關係，很多女生喜歡這樣，但是——別老盯着她胸部看，當然我們不排除有個別女生有此嗜好，但請小心。通常來說盯着臉看是一個不錯的選擇，但別色迷迷地。記住你的目光中應透露出你慎重和尊敬——不行就裝一下嘛。

4.讓她們感到很特別。女生們很欣賞你的勇敢，但不要嚇到她們。單純友好甚至戲虐的微笑都是可以的。如果你希望 能坦誠一些，可以誠摯的恭維一下。例如，“有人曾告訴過你的微笑很迷人嗎？”眼睛也是個不錯的選擇，即使你不容易注意到，這也可以暗示你有認真地看她的 臉。選擇她獨有的特點切入，這會讓她感到——極其特別，受人愛慕，美麗。

5.做一個紳士。女生們喜歡那些彬彬有禮的男生。做到這一點也很簡單——幫她們開門，或者其他的禮節。注意：某些騎士時代的禮節已經過時，這會讓她們感到很詭異——弄巧成拙。

6.講禮貌。當面爆口粗，摳鼻屎，撓屁股，放屁，咳嗽，張大嘴打噴嚏等等行爲都會讓她感到噁心。如果你不小心點的話，就別指望她再看你一眼啦。

7.逗她開心。風趣是每個男生都應具有的品質，相比於“帥氣”，女生們更看重此。如果你智商不低，而且還有很獨特/毒辣的幽默，儘管拿來用吧。把握時機也很重要。原則上不要拿她的相貌來開玩笑。

8.話題的選擇。如果你發現她們當前的話題感到不適的話，請務必換一個。

9.肢體接觸。肢體接觸的範圍依當前（關係）所處的階段而定。

*熟人。初次見面可以握握手。你的手可以輕輕地劃過她的手或胳膊。

*臨時的朋友或約會預備隊員。摸摸她的頭髮，或者撓撓癢。這些會被認爲是調情，如果對方不喜歡，立即道歉並剋制一點。

*好朋友。友善的擁抱是可以的，但請留意一下她的感覺，別壓的她難受。

*男女朋友。牽她的手，摟她的腰，吻她的脣。KISS之前最好能得到她的同意。

【友情提示】

異性同性朋友面前一個樣。免得別人說你重色輕友。

除了開玩笑，“性感”“操”等詞兒別用。

永遠別說她看起來很糟。

追的別太用功，她會注意到的。

不小心做了囧事，別緊張，女生們會認爲這很可愛。

學禮貌些。

【警告】

別講有性別歧視的笑話。

如何女生不願意，就別猛追了。

別告訴每個哥們你在追她。難道你就不怕有人更你搶？

與她的女朋友們適當接觸一下，顯示你的友善。

別老是急性子，弄巧成拙，收到“好人卡”可是很令人鬱悶的。