心靈雞湯:初次約會必須注意的11個細節(2)
7. Pick up your own tab
爲自己那一份買單It’s so much less complicated than negotiating any other payment arrangement with someone you barely know. And because it’s fair, neither of you will feel owed or owing。
比起和你幾乎不瞭解的人商量如何結賬，各付各的就沒那麼複雜了。因爲這是公平的，所以你們雙方不會覺得誰欠誰。8. No humblebragging
不要過分謙虛
Yes, it’s impressive that you compete in triathlons/run your own business/know that DJ. It’s so impressive that pretending to be humble or embarrassed when you’re actually pretty damn proud is just silly. Brag openly and briefly, as in, “Yeah, I do triathlons. I won the Example Triathlon last year,” then get back to whatever you were talking about before that。
是的，你參加三項全能運動/有自己的生意/認爲那個DJ，這些會令人對你刮目相看。這些如此令人刮目相看，對那些你其實引以爲傲的事情假裝謙卑或難爲情，這是很蠢的做法。大方而且簡要地誇耀自己，比如說“是的，我參加了三項全能運動。我去年獲得了鐵人三項參與獎。”然後回到你之前談論的話題上。9. Eat mint
吃點薄荷糖Do this not just to make sure your breath smells OK, but also because it perks you up. Mint helps you feel fresh, alert and ready for conversation. Plus, eating something minty prevents your mouth getting too dry if you’re nervous。
這樣做不只是保證口氣清新，而且它還能讓你振奮。薄荷讓你感覺清新，爲談話做好準備。此外，吃些帶薄荷味的東西，當你緊張時能避免嘴脣發乾。10. Be prepared
做好準備No matter who you are, there’s always a possibility that your first date could lead to sex, perhaps sooner than you thought. Be prepared with protection against pregnancy and STIs, of course, but it’s also important to prepare for the hormonal rush you’ll feel if there’s strong sexual chemistry between you and your date. Those hormones affect your judgement, so don’t take any unnecessary risks like driving too fast or drinking too much alcohol。
不管你是誰，在初次約會時和對方發生性關係都是有可能的，也許來得比你想的還要早。準備好避孕措施及預防性傳播感染，當然，同樣重要的是在你和你的約會對象之間產生強烈的性吸引力時，做好各種準備。這些激素會影響你的判斷力，所以不要冒任何風險，比如開快車，或是酗酒。11. Smile!
微笑
A genuine smile makes everyone look more attractive, without exception, so give your date a big smile when you see them. Because smiling triggers your nervous system to release serotonin, it improves your mood at the same time to help you enjoy the date。
無一例外，真誠的微笑讓人看起來更有吸引力，所以去約會時，看到他們就給他們一個燦爛的微笑。因爲微笑會觸發神經系統釋放血清素，它在改善情緒的同時幫助你享受約會的快樂。Don’t worry about minor mishaps on a first date. The less you fret about it, the more relaxed and confident you’ll feel. Keep these first date tips in mind to boost your date from average to awesome, and remember: this isn’t a job interview. It’s supposed to be fun!
不要擔心初次約會時發生的小意外。擔憂越少，你就越輕鬆、越自信。記住這些初次約會時的小建議，把你的約會從平庸提升到美妙，記住：這不是求職面試，初次約會就應該很好玩纔對！
