10步成爲一個有原則的人
re out what you.want to do, (eg. Audition for the school play)and what people's reactions to it will be. If it's a reaction you don't agree with, or is trying to get you to not do whatever you want to do, that isn't right.
弄清楚自己正在做的事情，並預測一下人們可能會有怎樣的反應。如果結果不是你想要的，或者人們都不支持你這樣做，那麼你確實可能錯了。
k "Why do I care so much about what this person thinks of me?" If you want to do something, you should do it!!
不要管別人對自己的看法，關注事情本身，想想如何讓事情做好。
3. Whatever reason you care about what they think with you, turn it off. It should be as easy as that. If you are experiencing some difficulty, or it isn't as easy as I think, think of all the reasons why you shouldn't care what they think. (eg... they don't really even know you, if they don't like something about you, they're just going to have to deal with it or they're not really your friends, this is who you are, you like being funny or smart or whatever characteristics you have, etc...)
無論你是出於什麼樣的原因，在乎別人的看法，都是沒有必要的。你可以告訴自己：他們並不真正那麼瞭解你，如果他們真的不喜歡你這樣，那麼可以試着去克服，否則他們就不算是真正的朋友。
4. Know that if that hasn't worked, or you would like to put your stoicism to the test, just go out and try doing whatever you want to do. This is the best solution, and I know it's hard, but this is what life is about, isn't it? Doing the things you love? If you won't do it now, when will you? It's time to stop being afraid and show people who you are!! Stop letting life pass you by doing nothing!
出去散心。如果以上方法均不可以，那麼走出去, 做一件讓自己開心的事，做自己想做的事。
5. Dress how you want, nobody should tell you how to do that. Unless you are planning on wearing yellow tights and underwear on top with no shirt.
按自己的喜好穿衣服。沒人比你更清楚你自己適合什麼樣的風格。
6. Listen to whatever music you want. Music is a big label with young people these days, and if you listen to what you want, then who cares? Music is music.
聽自己喜歡聽的歌。沒人可以管你的音樂喜好，音樂就是用來聽的。
7. Be happy, knowing you are more confident in yourself, and free to do whatever else it is you like doing, without being trapped in the cage called "peer pressure".
保持快樂。相信自己，做自己想做的事，不要被世俗所羈絆。
, people can think what they want. People who think in a judging way don't just judge one person, they probably judge everyone in some way. It's not your problem if someone judges you. It's theirs.
如果別人不贊同你，那是別人的問題，而不是你的問題。他們指責你，也會指責別人。
, remember, that you are not the only one that might be afraid of what others think of you. There are loads of people, who mostly think about themselves, and 't care about you.
同時，所有的人都在乎別人對自己的看法。那些不贊同你的人，總是想着自己，而沒有切實從你的角度出發。
10. If people try to put you down, ignore them. Make comments in your mind to yourself to perk you up. Don't look like you notice them, either, or they'll know you're afraid.
忽略那些讓你不快樂的人，他們不值得。激勵自己，不要讓他們以爲你很在乎他們的看法，而認爲你很怕他們。
