爲什麼離婚讓我更快樂?
Divorce can be extremely difficult, but as the process is finalized it can be extremely peaceful . . . or at the least, even in the midst of the stress and strain, it can be a positive event. For many people, the toughest part is in the first two stages: the first is when you are deciding whether to divorce or not. The decision to divorce can be harder than the divorce itself, as you're filled with anxiety and sadness. The second stage is the separation process in which both parties begin to cut ties.
離婚可能非常困難，但隨着過程最終確定下來，離婚也會非常平靜……或至少，甚至在壓力和緊張中，離婚會是件正能量的事。對很多人而言，最艱難的部分就是頭兩個階段：首先是決定離婚與否。離婚的決定可能比離婚本身更艱難，因爲你會充滿焦慮和悲傷。第二階段就是雙方開始斷絕關係的分開過程。Divorce shouldn't be considered trivial or an easy way out of a marriage, because more times than not it takes immense bravery to divorce and move forward with your life. But once you're over the tough part, there are so many reasons divorce can bring you happiness.
人們不該認爲離婚是件小事，也不該認爲離婚是脫離婚姻的簡單方式，因爲大多數時候，離婚並開始新的生活是需要巨大勇氣的。但一旦度過了艱難的部分，有很多理由告訴你：離婚也能給你帶來快樂。1. No More Doubt
1. 不再懷疑
That period when we were deciding whether to divorce or not was so hard. It was full of anxiety, sadness, confusion, and pain. I can't express enough how difficult that period was for me and, I am sure, my ex. Making the decision to divorce was hard because we had invested years together and had a child. My divorce made me happier and, I am sure, him as well, simply because the decision was made and we could move forward.
我們決定離婚與否的那段時間是非常艱難的。當時我們十分焦慮、悲傷、困惑和痛苦。我無法表達那段時間對我和我的前任來說是多麼的艱難。做出離婚的決定特別困難，因爲我們在一起很多年了，而且我們還有一個孩子。但離婚讓我和他都更快樂了，因爲我們做出了離婚的決定，並繼續了新的生活。
2. Knowing What to Look For
2. 明白自己想要什麼My ex and I are very different, and as time went on, those differences became more apparent. My divorce made me happier because I knew I could make the right choice for me in terms of picking a partner whose values best reflected mine. I don't think I understood before I got married how important it would be to have both significant common ground and a matching worldview in my lifetime partner.
我的前任和我非常不同，隨着時間的流逝，這些差異愈來愈明顯。我的離婚讓我更快樂，因爲在挑選和我有相同價值觀的伴侶方面，我知道我能做出正確的選擇。我想在我結婚前我並不明白與人生伴侶有重要的共同點以及相吻合的世界觀是多麼重要。3. Reconnecting With Myself
3. 重新認識我自己Typically, as people start to retreat from a marriage, the criticism is at an all-time high. There were things about me that my ex didn't like or didn't appreciate, yet they weren't things I could change in the long run. Being single and reconnecting with who I am and what I am made me much happier. Honestly, I needed to build my self-esteem, and that's exactly what these past three years single have done.
通常當人們離婚後，批評聲會一直不斷。我身上有些東西是我前任不喜歡或不欣賞的，但長久而言，這些事情卻不是我能夠改變的。單身後我重新認識我自己，我是誰，我是什麼，這讓我更快樂了。說實話，我需要建立自尊心，而過去三年的單身時光我也的確變得有自尊了。
