10招教你做最聰明的自己

Be you.self; everyone else is already taken. — Oscar Wilde
Being yourself is celebrating you, as an individual - learning to express yourself and be happy with who you are. For some people, it's learning to love yourself, for others, it's not hiding who you are or changing things about you to fit in. So read on to know how to express the inner you.

1 Define yourself. You can't be yourself if you don't know, understand, and accept yourself first. It should be your primary goal to find this out. Try to take time to yourself and contemplate your life and choices. Try to think about what kind of things you would or wouldn't like to do, and act accordingly; finding out through trial and error helps more than you might think it does. You can even take personality tests, but be careful to only take what you want from them and not let them define you. Work on accepting mistakes and choices you've made; they're done and in the past, so there is no use crying over spilled milk.
進行全方位的的自我分析。如果你不清楚自己的目標，不接受自己，你就很難給自己定位，花時間去評估自己，並想想自己的生活和自己的理想。

2 Stop caring about how people perceive you. The fact is, it really doesn't matter. It's impossible to be yourself when you're caught up in wondering "Do they think I'm funny? Does she think I'm fat? Do they think I'm stupid?" To be yourself, you've got to let go of these concerns and just let your behavior flow, with only your consideration of others as a filter — not their consideration of you. Besides, if you change yourself for one person or group, another person or group may not like you, and you could go around in a vicious cycle trying to please people; it's totally pointless in the end, and it leaves you exhausted. However, if someone you trust and respect critiques aspects of who you are, feel free to judge (honestly) whether or not it is accurate instead of accepting or dismissing the critique unconditionally.
走自己的路，讓別人去說吧！別人的看法並不重要，如果一直擔心別人如何看待自己，就很難真正做到自己。

3 Be honest and open. What have you got to hide? We're all imperfect, growing, learning human beings. If you feel ashamed or insecure about any aspect of yourself — and you feel that you have to hide those parts of you, whether physically or emotionally — then you have to come to terms with that and learn to convert your so-called flaws into individualistic quirks. Be honest with yourself, but don't beat yourself up; apply this philosophy to others, as well. There is a difference between being critical and being honest; learn to watch the way you say things to yourself and others when being honest.
誠實熱情。爲什麼讓自己藏起來？每個人都不是完美的，每個人都是在成長的過程中慢慢成熟。

4 Relax. Stop worrying about the worst that could happen, especially in social situations. So what if you fall flat on your face? Or get spinach stuck in your teeth? Learn to laugh at yourself both when it happens and afterwards. Turn it into a funny story that you can share with others. It lets them know that you're not perfect and makes you feel more at ease, too. It's also an attractive quality for someone to be able to laugh at themselves and not take themselves too seriously!
學會放鬆。不要總是杞人憂天，庸人自擾，尤其在和別人交往的時候。很多時候，甚至可以一笑而過，把不開心的事當成自己的笑話和朋友分享。

5 Develop and express your individuality. Whether it's your sense of style, or even your manner of speaking, if your preferred way of doing something strays from the mainstream, then be proud of it... unless it's destructive to yourself or others. Be a character, not a type.
挖掘並發展自己的個性。無論是你的風格，你的說話方式，如果你敢於脫離大流，那麼就去堅持做下去。

6 Have a productive day. Accept that some days you're the pigeon, and that some days, you're the statue. People might raise eyebrows and even make fun, but as long as you can shrug and say "Hey, that's just me" and leave it at that, people will ultimately respect you for it, and you'll respect yourself.
讓每一天都與衆不同。縱使有的時候你會這樣，有的時候你會那樣，別人或許會嘲笑你，但是你只要笑着說“是的，這就是我！”就夠了。

7 Believe in who you are. If you're always working to be someone you're not, you'll never be a happy person. Be yourself and show the world you're proud of the way you are! Nobody knows you better than you and that's how it should be. You deserve to be your own best friend, so start trying to figure out how you can do that. If you had to hang out with yourself for a day, what is the most fun type of person you could be, while still being yourself? What is the best version of you?
Believe in this idea and use that as your starting point. Love and accept yourself as you are now.
相信自己。如果你一直逼着自己去成爲一個你認爲很好的人，你就不會幸福。

8 Follow your own style. The common thing a lot of people do is copy other's actions because it seems like the better route to fit in, but really, shouldn't you stand out? Standing out is very hard, yes, but you need to try avoid assuming other people's perspectives of you. Even if it's not something you would normaly do; that's what being yourself is all about. Maybe you like to sit outside on the deck under a umbrella in the middle of the rain, maybe you have different ideas of things, rather than other people, maybe you like strawberry cake instead of the common chocolate cake, whatever you are, accept it. Being different is absolutely beautiful and it attracts people to you.
堅持自己的風格。很多人都喜歡追逐潮流，爲什麼你也一定要這樣呢？試着找到自己的風格，作出你自己。

e's a big difference between being yourself and being might have your opinions, dreams, and preferences, but so does everyone else. You shouldn't disrespect people who disagree with you; they have the privilege of being themselves just as you do. Conversely, don't agree with something you honestly don't think is right; just don't try to force your opinions on other people.
尊重別人。做自己不等於粗魯。你可以有自己的觀點，意見，夢想，但請同時尊重他人。

the famous song goes, "Life's not worth a damn, until you can say 'I am what I am.' " When you can sincerely say it, you will know that you can be yourself.
我就是我。正如一首歌裏唱的“我必須做自己，否則生活就一文不值”。當你理解這句話的時候，你已經做到自己了。

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