讓你成爲甜蜜戀人的10個小習慣（雙語）
摘要：戀愛需要經營。幸福戀人也得每天用愛心和關心去維繫彼此的關係。不過，維持愛情也沒有看上去的那麼困難。其實，擁有甜蜜戀愛並沒有什麼“祕密”可言，不過你確實可以採取行動讓一切變得更順利。嘗試在日常生活中養成以下習慣，看看你的戀愛會變得有多甜蜜吧!
It seems like a happy Relationship should come naturally when you’re with the right person, but that’s not true. Relationships require work. Happy couples have to maintain their relationships every day with love and care, but it’s not as daunting of a task as it may seem. There’s no real “secret” to having a happy relationship, but there are things you can do to make it all come more easily. Try to integratethese habits into your daily life and see how much happier your relationship can be.
貌似只要遇到對的人，戀愛自然而然就會幸福。但其實事情並不是這樣的。戀愛需要經營。幸福戀人也得每天用愛心和關心去維繫彼此的關係。不過，維持愛情也沒有看上去的那麼困難。其實，擁有甜蜜戀愛並沒有什麼“祕密”可言，不過你確實可以採取行動讓一切變得更順利。嘗試在日常生活中養成以下習慣，看看你的戀愛會變得有多甜蜜吧!
1. Cultivate common interests.
1. 培養共同的興趣愛好。
It’s important to keep your own hobbies when you’re part of a couple, of course, because you want to stay true to yourself and not change your personality. But you and your partner can cultivate common interests without changing who either of you are, and it will make your relationship stronger as a result. I love reading and writing, which are typically solitary hobbies, but my fiancé doesn’t hesitate to grab a book and sit next to me on the couch, or he’ll write a story too, and we can give each other feedback. He loves painting, and I can hardly draw a stick figure, but when he asks me to help him with a painting, I love to try and do my best with bright streaks of color. As a result, we’ve both found that it doesn’t matter what you do together (or in the case of my painting attempts, how well you do it), just that you’re doing enjoyable things together.
當然，即便談戀愛也不能放棄自己的愛好，畢竟你還想做你自己，不願改變自己的性格。但是，在不改變彼此的同時，你照樣可以和戀人培養共同愛好，這樣可以讓感情更親密哦。我喜歡閱讀和寫文字(典型的內向型興趣)，而我的未婚夫也很喜歡擠在沙發上跟我一起看書，或者自己寫故事，然後跟我討論。他喜歡畫畫，而我在這方面完全是個白癡。但是，當他畫畫需要我幫忙時，我也很樂意盡力畫上幾筆。結果我們發現，做了什麼事情並不重要(比如我畫得到底好不好)，重要的是——兩個人在一起很開心地去做這件事。
2. Go to bed at the same time.
2. 同一時間上牀睡覺。
I used to think it was silly to want to go to bed at the same time as my partner, but it does wonders for your relationship! If one of us stays up later than the other, our whole evening feels off. There’s something cozy about sliding under the covers together, talking about what happened during the day or what’s on the list for tomorrow. My fiancé works the night shift, and without realizing it, my schedule also changed until I was a night owl, doing my freelance work during the late hours while he was at his job. When he came home early in the morning, I’d go to bed with him just to get that connection you can only get from sleeping and waking up together.
我以前覺得跟愛人同時間上牀睡覺完全扯淡，但其實這真的有助於彼此關係哦!要是有一個人熬夜，那兩個人的晚上就毀了。兩個人蓋上被子一起躺着聊聊白天發生的事情或第二天有什麼計劃，真是莫大的愜意啊。我的未婚夫要倒晚班，然後不知不覺中，我竟也跟着變成夜貓子，在他上班的時間熬夜趕兼職工作了。當他早上下班回來，我纔會跟他一起上牀睡覺，這樣就可以親親密密地同睡同醒啦。
3. Walk hand in hand.
3. 手牽手一起散步。
My hatred of hand-holding started in elementary school, when you had to hold hands with a buddy so you wouldn’t get lost on a field trip. Since then, I’ve never held hands with anyone and not gotten immediately sweaty palms. It’s one of the worst feelings! With my partner, though, I love holding hands. It makes me feel so happy and connected to him just to hold hands as we walk through the neighborhood, or even around the grocery store. Even if we don’t hold hands, we keep pace and walk side by side. I find that more often than not, my hand either finds his, or I slide my arm around his waist. There’s something really nice about walking perfectly in step with your partner.
我從小學時就很討厭牽手，那時爲了在郊遊時不走丟，我必須和某男生拉着手。從那時起我就再也沒有和誰牽過手，當然也沒有遇到過手心汗溼的情況。手心汗溼該有多尷尬啊!可是，當和戀人在一起時，我很喜歡牽着手。哪怕只是在小區裏面散步或去雜貨店，跟他牽着手都讓我覺得特別快樂踏實。就算不牽手，我們也會肩並肩保持步調一致。我還發現自己會不自覺地去拉他的手，或者胳膊伸過去抱他的腰。和戀人肩並肩一起散步真的非常美好!
4. Make trust and forgiveness your default mode.
4. 彼此信任，給予原諒。
It’s so easy to fight about stupid nothings and hold a grudge, but that’s not the way to be happy in a relationship. You have to forgive your partner after a fight, even if it’s something major. You might feel like they’ve betrayed your trust, but if you don’t give them another chance, then your relationship can never feel natural again. There will always be a rift because you don’t trust your partner, and feel like any time your back is turned, they’ll be doing something hurtful. On the other side, your partner won’t feel loved in the relationship because they’ll have never gotten your full forgiveness. Let your heart love easier by truly forgiving and honestly trusting your partner.
兩個人難免會爲一些無所謂的事情爭吵甚至耿耿於懷，但這樣對感情關係毫無益處。哪怕事關重大，吵完之後你也得原諒對方。你可能會覺得對方辜負了你的信任，但如果不給他一次機會，接下來的關係肯定會尷尬彆扭。這將成爲一個豁口，因爲你不再信任對方，覺得任何時候只要你一轉身，他就會做出傷害你的事來。而且相應地，對方也覺得這段關係再也沒有愛情可言，因爲他從來沒覺得被原諒過。請放寬心去愛吧，請真心原諒對方、真誠信任對方吧。
5. Focus on what your partner does right, not wrong.
5. 多發現戀人做得對的地方，而不是揪着錯誤不放。
No one likes a nit-pick! Don’t chastise your partner every time you think they do something wrong. There are nice ways to inform someone if they hurt your feelings, or to correct them if they do something in a bad way. But instead of yelling at your partner for breaking a plate, thank them for washing the dishes for you—hey, soap makes things slippery! Your partner will appreciate that you’re seeing the positive things they’re bringing to the relationship, and being more positive andcomplimentary will make you feel better than being negative all the time.
沒人喜歡找茬挑刺兒!不要每次覺得戀人做錯了就責怪不已。如果戀人傷害了你的感情，可以委婉地說出來;如果戀人做錯事，可以指正出來。但是，千萬不要因爲戀人打碎了一個盤子而朝他大吼大叫，相反，你應該感謝他幫你洗碗——哎呀，肥皂水容易讓手打滑嘛!這樣說，他會心存感激的。你能看到彼此關係的積極面，這種積極和讚揚也能趕走消極情緒，讓你一直開心快樂。
6. Hug each other when you see each other after work.
6. 下班後給彼此一個擁抱。
This one is easy—who doesn’t want to melt into a comforting hug after a hard day? And if you had a good day, share your excitement with a hug. You can’t beat ‘em. And once you start hugging, you’ll feel so much happier that you’ll find it easier to make time to cuddle with your partner instead of getting stressed by the things you need to get done around the house.
這個很容易——誰不想在辛苦工作後得到一個欣慰的擁抱呢?如果你今天過得不錯，那就用擁抱傳達你的開心吧。你絕對抵抗不了擁抱的誘惑。一旦擁抱，你會感到更加開心，也更願意多和戀人依偎在一起，而不會爲了家裏一堆雜事煩惱。
7. Say “I love you” and “Have a good day” every morning.
7. 每天早晨說“我愛你”和“希望你今天過得開心”。
Another easy tip! Saying sweet words to each other is never a waste of breath. My fiancé and I say “I love you” any time we part—whether it’s on the phone, when he leaves for work, when I run an errand. It makes you feel much happier, and is always a good note to end on when you go about your days.
這也是一個很簡單的建議!嘴甜不吃虧嘛。我和未婚夫在任何分別的時候都會說“我愛你”——掛電話啦、他去上班啦，或者僅僅我出去辦點事。這會讓你更快樂，在一天工作開始時來這麼一句很不錯哦。
8. Say “Good night” every night, regardless of how you feel.
8. 不論多累，每天晚上都要說“晚安”。
Same with “Have a good day,” saying “Good night” when you and your partner go to bed puts a nice, loving haze on the end of the day. My fiancé and I have a nightly routine we say before falling asleep. I won’t reveal it here because it’s special to us, but it includes “Good night,” “I love you,” and other nice phrases that make you feel good and inspire sweet dreams!
和“希望你今天過得開心”一樣，睡覺前跟戀人道“晚安”也能增加一天的美好愛意。我和未婚夫睡覺前都要聊好些話，鑑於這是我倆的私事，不便在這裏透露，但是我們肯定會說“晚安”以及“我愛你”等甜言蜜語，這樣心情很愉悅，連做夢也是甜的!
9. Do a “weather” check during the day.
9. 白天抽空查看一下“天氣情況”。
A “weather” check is where you call your partner during the day to see how they are. A caring phone call or text can really brighten their day and show them that you’re thinking of them. As an added bonus, it gives you a heads up about how their day is going. If they’re having a tough time, you can curb your happiness about a work promotion and be more sympathetic as soon as you get home. You can tailor your attitude to make them feel that much better when you both get home.
“天氣”檢查其實是說，白天抽空打電話問問戀人怎麼樣了。一個關心的電話或短信真的可以給他帶去陽光，並且可以說明你在想他。而且，你還能獲知他的進展情況哦。如果他過得不好，你可以忍住自己升職的快樂情緒，回家後對他表現得更同情一些。當你們都回家時，你也可以調整情緒，讓他感覺好受些。
10. Be grateful for what you have.
10. 對已經擁有的要心懷感激。
This is the simplest tip of all, because if you’re in a relationship, you clearly value your partner. Be thankful that you have someone you love who loves you back. Be thankful that they help you with household chores and support you during tough times and cheer you on during the good times. Look at your partner as much as you can and just smile that you have them by your side.
這是最簡單的建議，因爲如果你在談戀愛，理所當然要珍惜對方。有人愛你，而你又恰好愛他，那麼請心懷感激吧。有人幫你做家務，在困難時給你支持，在順利時逗你開心，所以請心懷感激吧。用心凝視戀人，朝他微笑，感謝有他陪伴!
