家長必讀 確保孩子安全的七大祕籍(上)
Keeping your children safe and away from danger is every parent's number one priority.
保證自己孩子的安全、遠離危險是每個家長首要考慮的事情。
From what to do if they think they're being followed to the best course of action if they're feeling unsafe and there are no police officers around, a website has these difficult conversations with your children covered.
如果孩子認爲他們被跟蹤了，他們該怎麼做？如果孩子們感覺不安全而周圍又沒有警察，他們又該做什麼？一家網站的文章告訴家長該怎麼與孩子進行這些有難度的對話。
Anxious Toddlers - a forum dedicated to giving parents support, advice and guidance - has created a list of seven tips to help keep your child safe when you're not around.
Anxious Toddlers是一個爲家長提供支持、建議和指導的論壇。它列了一張包括七條建議的清單，內容是當家長不在身邊時該如何確保孩子的安全。
Fortunately, these situations are very rare, but it is always better for you and your child to be clued up just in case.
幸運的是，這些情況並不多見。但是您和您的孩子清楚地知道這些以防萬一總是好的。
In one half-hour conversation with your sons and daughters, you can instill into them some basic facts on what to do if they feel unsafe.
在和您的兒女半小時的談話中，你可以告訴他們如果他們感到危險，他們應該怎麼做。
1. GET RID OF PERSONALISED ITEMS
1.不要有帶個人名字的物品
The first piece of advice tells parents to throw out their children's personalised rucksacks, lunch boxes and other items that visibly show off their child's name to people they don't know.
第一條建議：將把孩子名字標在顯眼處的揹包、午餐盒和其他物品扔掉，這些帶名字的物品會讓陌生人知道他們的名字。
This is because when strangers know your child's name they come across as friendly and familiar - and subsequently your child is much more likely to trust them.
這是因爲當陌生人知道孩子的名字時，孩子會感覺他們友好和熟悉。隨後孩子會更容易相信這些陌生人。
The author of the article Natasha Daniels says: 'Every morning as I drive my kids to school, I see these two very young girls walking to school on their own. From down the street I can make out both of their glittery names on their backpacks.'
文章的作者娜塔莎•丹尼爾斯說：“每天早上我開車送孩子去上學，我看到有兩個小姑娘自己走路去上學。從街邊我就能辨認出她們揹包上閃閃發光的名字。”
2. COME UP WITH A CODE WORD
2.想一個共同的暗號
Code words are important to help protect your child from harmful situations.
在很多情況下暗號對保護孩子遠離危險是非常重要的。
Having a code word is useful for a variety of situations. With your children, make up a family code word that is neither too common nor so bizarre that it would be hard to use naturally.
有個暗號在很多情況下都很有用。和你的孩子一起想一個家庭暗號，不要太普通也不要太奇怪，不然想要自然地使用這個暗號會很困難。
Children can then use the code word in different situations.
孩子們可以在不同情況下使用暗號。
For example, if you've sent someone to pick up your child - they should be aware of what the code word is so they'll know not to leave with anyone else.
比如，如果你讓別人幫忙接孩子，他們需要知道暗號是什麼，這樣孩子就不會和其他人一起離開。
Alternatively, if a child is at a friend's house and somebody or something is making them feel unsafe, they can call you and say the code word to you over the phone so you'll know to get them out of the situation.
另外，如果孩子在朋友家，如果有人或有東西讓他們感到危險，他們可以打電話給你並且說出暗號，這樣你就知道有危險，然後把他們救出危境。
3. SAY NO TO 'BODY SECRETS'
3. 對“身體祕密”說不
When a child is sexually abused, they can often be told not to tell their parents about what has happened to them, and to keep it a secret between them and the abuser.
當孩子受到性侵，他們經常會被施虐者叮囑不要告訴父母發生了什麼事情，就讓它成爲孩子和施虐者之間的祕密。
Teaching your children to never keep 'body secrets' is important and they should know to tell you immediately if somebody has touched a part of their body and asked them to hide it from you.
但是很重要的一點是要教你的孩子明白永遠不要有“身體的祕密”。如果有人接觸了他們身體的一部分並且讓孩子對你保密，孩子應該馬上告訴你發生了什麼。
4. HOW TO ESCAPE BEING FOLLOWED
4.如何逃脫跟蹤
The obvious conversation that you should have with your child is to teach them about stranger danger.
很明顯你需要告訴孩子陌生人很危險。
More specifically, you should also teach them about the ways in which strangers can look. They don't always have a rough appearance and can appear to be perfectly normal.
更確切地說，你應該教他們怎麼辨別陌生人。他們並不都長的很兇惡，有些人長得十分普通。
It is also highly important to point out that no matter what a stranger says, you should never leave with them or get into their car. The code word can also be helpful in this situation.
還有很重要的一點是無論陌生人說什麼，孩子都不能和他們離開或到他們的車裏去。在這種情況下暗號也是很有用的。
Additionally, tell your child that if they are being followed or chased by somebody, to start running in the opposite direction to the car. This will buy them a few crucial moments as the car turns around.
此外，告訴你的孩子如果他們被跟蹤或被人追趕，朝着與車子方向相反的方向跑。車子需要轉彎，這可以爲他們爭取一下時間。
