那些聽話的女生，最終都失去了什麼？
1980年7月26日，在新西蘭北島的一家醫院裏，一個哭聲響亮的小女孩出生了。
On July 26th of 1980, in a hospital on New Zealand’s North Island, a baby girl who cried quite loud came to this world.
雅登夫婦看着這個高分貝的二女兒，想象着她20年以後的模樣，雖然他們眼前還沒有浮現出具體的畫面，但她應該是個乖巧的女孩子。
The Ardern couple looked at this second daughter who had a big voice, imagining how she would be like in 20 years. Although they didn’t see the picture very clearly, they thought she would be well-behaved.
於是，他們給她起名叫傑辛達，那是一種芳香的小花。
So, they decided to call her Jacinda. That name means a kind of little flower with sweet scent.
但是，事情似乎沒有往他們想象的方向發展。
But things haven’t gone quite as they have planned.
想象中的那朵小花，好像並沒有出現，呈現在雅登夫婦面前的，完全是另外一幅景象。
It seems like the little flower they wanted never came. Instead, what the Ardern couple have seen has been something totally different.
37年之後，在2017年的10月19日，新西蘭迎來了它160年曆史中最年輕的領導人，而且還是一位女總理。
37 years have passed. On October 19th of 2017, New Zealand welcomed its youngest state leader in its 160 years of history. And this leader is a female Prime Minister.
她的名字，叫傑辛達·雅登。
Her name is Jacinda Ardern.
37歲，這在政界是個相當年輕的年齡。
37 is a very young age for someone working in politics.
而傑辛達作爲一個如此年輕的領導人，同時還是一位女性，在政壇這個老男人們俱樂部裏，必然是備受非難的。
And Jacinda is not only young but also a woman. So it’s completely imaginable for her to get questioned in this club of old men.
果不其然，在她上任的第二天，她在新西蘭電視臺的早間節目裏被男主播問到：
And questioned she got. Right on the second day after her inauguration, when she was on a morning show of TVNZ, the male anchor asked her:
“如果你在總理任期內休產假，是不是會影響工作？”
“If you take your maternity leave in your term of office, would it affect your job?”
對對對，只要一談女人就要談生孩子。
Yeah, yeah, yeah, every time people talk about women, it always ends up in talking about having babies.
而獅子座的傑辛達當然沒有選擇沉默，她強硬地回擊到：
Jacinda, who is a Leo, didn’t choose to stay silent. She toughly told the anchor:
“什麼時候生孩子，是女性自己的選擇。一個人能否得到一份工作，不應該以這作爲判斷的預設條件。”
“When to have her baby is of a woman’s own choice. This should not be a precondition to decide whether she gets the job or not.”
是的，這就是傑辛達。
Yes, this is Jacinda.
從小時候開始，她就不是一個傳統意義上的聽話女孩。
Ever since she was little, she has not been a conventional girl who does what she is told to do.
她上學的時候，雅登夫婦的頭可大了。
When she was still in school, she had been such a problem for the Ardern couple.
三天兩頭，夫妻倆就會接到學校老師的電話，要他們去面談。
Every few days, they would get called by her teacher and asked to have a conversation in the school.
因爲傑辛達不光總是閒不住，而且還經常領着班上的孩子反對老師的意見。
Because, besides being always restless, Jacinda often brought the other kids up to go against the teachers’ opinions.
傑辛達的興趣愛好也非常不“淑女”，她喜歡夜店、電子音樂和打碟，是學校裏有名的派對女王。
And her hobby was also not so girly. She like night club, electronic music and DJing. She was known as a party queen in her school.
之後還成了當地的一名小有名氣的DJ，參加過大型音樂節。
Latter she even became a famous local DJ and went to take part in some huge music festivals.
傑辛達不光在外面玩得嗨，在學校裏的動作也越來越大。
While playing wildly outside the school, her moves inside the school also got bolder and bolder.
以前還只是帶着班上的同學反對老師，後來直接成了學校裏的意見領袖，開始領導各種維權社團了。
In the past, what she had done had only being leading other students to question the teachers. And now, she became a key opinion leader in the school and started to lead some rights groups.
不少校領導看到這個野丫頭的時候，都想繞道走。
The school authority had quite a headache when dealing with her.
在學校之外，她還和父母所在的教會槓上了，她看不慣教會裏深重的男權思想，於是憤然退教。
And besides what she did in the school, she also had some issues with the church which her parents belong to. She couldn’t tolerate the deep-rooted male chauvinism in it. So she resigned from the church.
這在當地的教徒中引起了不小的轟動，而她的父母作爲虔誠的信徒也覺得很難接受。
This had astonished a lot of the local believers. And her parents, who were very devout, found it pretty difficult to accept.
不過當然，她的這種做法也爲她贏得了不少讚賞的目光。
But, of course, by doing this she had won herself some admiration.
越來越多的人開始仰慕她身上的獨立精神。
More and more people started to admire this spirit of independence in her.
而她也對自己這樣的身份越來越認同，並去懷卡託大學攻讀了政治與公共關係學。
Her self-identification kept growing stronger. And she went to University of Waikato to study politics and public relations.
她的政壇之路可以說是越走越順了，不過她並沒有就這樣變成一個陳腐的傳統政客。
Now you can say that her path in politics has become smooth. But she didn’t settle for changing into a conventional politician.
她依舊在各方面展現着自己的“不聽話”。
She is still, from every perspective, that girl who doesn’t to what she is told.
作爲新西蘭的國家領導人，她的同居男友卻是新西蘭娛樂圈有名的花花公子——克拉克·蓋弗。
Though she is the state leader of New Zealand, her boyfriend who lives with her is a well-known playboy in New Zealand's entertainment industry. His name is Clarke Gayford.
這位39歲的電視主持人曾經有過不少女友，而這也讓他和傑辛達的這段戀情備受非議。
This 39-year-old anchor has had a considerable number of ex-girlfriends. And this has brought many doubts to his current relationship with Jacinda.
八卦小報們特別喜歡報道他們的私事，也總有好事之徒來對他們的生活發表意見。
Tabloids love to report about their personal businesses. And there are always little people who come to give opinion on their private life.
不過傑辛達完全不在乎，畢竟這是她自己的感情生活，別人憑什麼管？
But Jacinda doesn’t give a damn about this. It’s her life, right? Why is it others’ business?
而且，或許是因爲自由的靈魂都是互相吸引的，克拉克與傑辛達的生活相當美滿。
And maybe it’s because free spirits tend to attract one another, Clarke and Jacinda’s life has been very happy.
沒錯，父母盼望的那朵小花，至今也沒有出現。
Yes, the little flower which her parents wanted still didn’t come.
傑辛達自始至終都還是那個不聽話的女孩。
Jacinda has always been that girl who does not do what she is told.
而這個不聽話的女孩，得到了她想要的一切。
And this girl has got everything she ever wanted.
在人生這條路上，好好經營自己比依賴任何人都靠譜。
In this road we call life, managing yourself wisely is way more reliable than relying on someone else.
那些聽話的女孩最終都失去了什麼？
And for those girls who are accustomed to obey, what have they lost?
她們失去了過自己人生的機會。
They have lost the chance to truly live their own lives.
