男性眼中的'直男癌'
Men explain toxic masculinity to me
男性眼中的‘直男癌’
1. At a coffee shop in Chicago not long ago, while quietly reading through the memoir I had spent the previous five years writing, I was interrupted by a man with long grey hair pulled back into a ponytail. He looked to be in his mid-50s and had the sun-weathered face of a man who'd probably spent a good deal of time working outdoors. "Are those galleys?" he asked, leaning over the table to eyeball the pages spread out before me.
1. 不久前，在芝加哥的一家咖啡館裏，當我靜靜地翻閱我在過去五年間寫作的回憶錄時，一位滿頭白髮扎着馬尾的男人走過來打斷了我。他看起來50多歲，飽經風霜，可能常年在戶外工作。“這些都是廚房嗎？”他斜倚在咖啡桌上，盯着擺在我面前的書頁問道。
I looked up at him, surprised and somewhat taken aback by the intrusion, but I forced a smile and said they were indeed galleys. He moved in closer and asked what the book was about. "It's a reckoning with toxic masculinity," I answered.
我擡頭看向他，因爲被打斷而感到一絲驚訝，但我還是勉強微笑着說這些的確是廚房。他走近了一點，問及這是本什麼書。“這是本被視爲直男癌的書，”我回答道。
His eyes narrowed. "I hate that term," he said, using his hands to emphasize his disdain. "You shouldn't write about toxic masculinity because it doesn't exist. You should write about nourishing masculinity. You should write about ..."
他眯起雙眸。“我討厭這個說法，”他說道，搖搖頭表示自己的不贊同。“你不應該就直男癌寫作，因爲它根本不存在。你應該寫讚揚男子氣概的文章，應該寫……”
The man's instructions came emphatically and rapid fire, one after the other, about all the things I should write about instead of toxic masculinity, a thing he seemed to be insisting didn't exist while simultaneously proving that it did.
他一個接一個地告訴我應該寫什麼，反正就是不要寫直男癌，因爲他堅持認爲直男癌不存在，並致力於證明自己的觀點。
2. According to the American Psychological Association, "masculinity ideology" is a certain set of descriptive, prescriptive, and small-minded perceptions about boys and men. There are, of course, differences in masculinity ideologies—some that are less small-minded, less restrictive than others—but there is also a particular constellation of standards that have held sway over large segments of the population for quite some time. Often, this particular ideology idealizes anti-femininity, achievement, eschewal of the appearance of weakness, and adventure, risk, and violence. Collectively, these are now referred to as "traditional masculinity ideology."
2. 根據美國心理學會的說法，“大男子主義意識形態”是對男孩和男人的某種描述性、指定性的狹隘觀念。當然，大男子主義意識形態之間也存在差異——有些相較其他而言不那麼狹隘，限制也較少——但很大一部分人口認定的是一種特殊的標準，且已認定相當長的一段時間。通常，這種特殊的意識形態將反對女子主義、成就、避免懦弱、冒險和暴力理想化。總的而言，這些統稱爲“傳統的大男子主義意識形態。”
3. I set out to write a story that I had been trying to tell for 20 years, a story about losing a father and becoming a father, about violence and rebellion, about work and friendship and loss, about trying to disappear myself—over and over again—with cocaine and vodka and pills.
3. 我着手寫一篇20年前就打算寫的故事，一個關於失去父親、成爲父親的故事，一個關於暴力與叛逆的故事，一個關於工作和友情以及失去的故事，一個關於反複試圖用可卡因、伏特加和藥片自殺的故事。
