給40歲男人的約會建議
1. EMBRACE THE NEW WORLD.
1. 擁抱新世界。So you.#39;ve been out of the game for a few years? Let me get you up to speed. Today, we're all a lot more searchable and socially connected, so, just as you'd leave a "positive paper trail" for potential employers who Google you, you need to do the same for your love life. (Get on social media and make sure you're projecting a healthy image into the world. She will be Googling.)
所以你已經好幾年沒有遊戲人間了？我來幫你瞭解最新的趨勢吧。現而今，其他人更容易找到我們，我們與社會的關聯也越來越密切，所以，正如你爲潛在的僱主（他/她會搜索你）留下了"積極的個人檔案"一樣，你也應該留下積極的愛情檔案。（登錄社交媒體賬號，確保給他人留下健康的形象。她也會搜索你的。）2. BUT REMEMBER THE BASICS.
2. 但也要記住基礎的東西。
Some things never change: You should arrive on time, be present, take a genuine interest in who she is, offer to pick up the tab, and see that she gets cab if she's going home or stand outside while she enters her home safely. If she's going to yours, always remember to solicit enthusiastic, verbal consent for everything you do. Immediately.
有些事是永遠不會變的：你應該準時、懂得陪伴、對她的真實自我感興趣、替她買單、如果她要回家，那就陪着她直到她上出租車，或者站在門外直到她安全到家。如果她要去你家，一定要記得，你所做的每一件事都要徵求她的口頭同意。立刻！
3. IMAGINE YOUR NEXT RELATIONSHIP.
3. 想象自己的下一段戀情。Before you sign up for every dating app you've heard your single friends raving about, imagine what you want this whole adventure to look like. "Take some time to be alone, be comfortable being alone and with yourself, and decide what it is that you really want out of your next relationship," suggests Jane Coloccia, author of Confessions Of An Online Dating Addict. "By getting clear about who you are and what you want, the right person will show up."
在註冊約會app之前，你的單身朋友就已經滔滔不絕的說過，你想象中的這段冒險是什麼樣子。"花時間獨處，一個人的時候要樂得其所，決定好自己真正想要的下一段戀情是什麼樣子，"Confessions Of An Online Dating Addict一書的作者簡·克洛西亞建議道。"弄清楚自己是誰、想要什麼，你纔會遇到對的那個人。"4. GOOGLE YOURSELF.
4. 搜索你自己。Again, your date will be Googling you. So correct misinformation they may find, or at least be prepared to prove that you're not the escaped serial killer who shares your name.
再說一遍，你的約會對象也會搜索你的。所以糾正他們可能找到的錯誤信息，或者至少做好準備，證明你不是那名在逃的連環殺手，他/她只是和你名字相同。5. FIGURE OUT WHERE YOU WANT TO MEET NEW PEOPLE.
5. 想清楚在哪兒和約會對象見面。Some people like to meet potential dates at bars or cafes. Some like a set-up orchestrated by friends. Others prefer to go looking for love-or at least fun-online via the use of a dating app.
有些人喜歡和潛在的約會對象約在酒吧或咖啡館見面。有些人則喜歡由朋友牽線。有些人喜歡用約會app尋找真愛--或者尋歡作樂。6. IF YOU'RE DATING ONLINE, SIGN UP TO SEVERAL APPS.
6. 如果你是在線找對象，那就多註冊幾個約會app。"If you were catching birds would you place your bird seed in multiple places or would you have it in just one place?" says Megan Weks, dating and relationship expert.
"如果你想抓鳥，那你是在多個地方撒鳥食，還是隻是乾耗在一個地方？"約會情感專家梅根·韋克斯說道。
