和妹子約會時,給你的十大建議(3)
gious Preferences
3.宗教信仰In addition to her upbringing and background, you also should find out if she has any religious preferences and if so, what those preferences are. Like money, religion can undermine your romance before it even begins. Couples who fail to see eye-to-eye on religion could be headed for disaster if they cannot work out these differences before getting married or building a permanent commitment to each other. Like asking for her age, you may be uncomfortable asking about her religious ideals. Even so, you could be saving yourself future troubles by getting this information sooner rather than later.
除了個人經歷和家庭教育方式，你還應該看看她是否有任何宗教信仰，若有的話是哪種宗教。和錢一樣，宗教能在這段浪漫剛開始時就毀掉它。如果情侶們不能在宗教問題上達成一致，不能在結婚或是做出終生承諾前處理這些差異，他們的關係將走向災難。和詢問她的年齡一樣，你可能在問她的宗教理想時也不太自然。雖然如此，這也可能比你以後才瞭解更能避免許多未來的麻煩。
Many couples fail to appreciate how religion can impact their relationship until it comes time to plan a wedding, raise children, or plan out other important details. Once they find out that they have different ideals, it can be a major battle to compromise, particularly if you both have deep beliefs that you are unwilling to relinquish.
許多情侶都沒有重視宗教信仰對他們的關係的影響，直到他們要籌備婚禮、養育孩子或是策劃其他重大細節時才意識到這一點。一旦他們發現雙方有不同的想法，就會有一場“看誰先妥協”的大戰，尤其是兩人都堅定自己絕不放棄的時候。
Even if you were not brought up in a particular faith or in a religious family, you should always find out if the girl you want to ask out has a religious affiliation and how devoted she is to it. It is important that this part of her be something to which you can conform yourself to or at least accommodate for your own peace of mind.
即使你不是在有着特定信仰或是宗教家庭中長大的人，你也應該注意你要約會的女孩有無宗教信仰並且信仰有多深。她在這一部分的想法能與你相符或至少能讓你內心平靜是很重要的。th
2.健康
Many people who have serious health challenges look perfectly well and display few outward symptoms. In reality, however, they could be gravely ill and need constant medical attention. Some of the silent conditions whose symptoms may not be obvious at first glance include anemia, hepatitis, chronic lung disease, diabetes, and even heart problems. When you want to ask out a girl that you like, you may do well to find out if she has any health challenges that could call for you to act promptly. Being ready to take care of her in case of an emergency requires that you know these details before you begin dating.
很多有健康隱患的人看起來非常健康，症狀並不外顯。然而，實際上他們可能重病在身並且需要長時間醫療看護。一些病症很不明顯，其症狀很難一眼辨識，例如貧血，肝炎，慢性肺病，糖尿病甚至心臟病。當想約一位你心儀的女孩外出時，你需要做足功課，瞭解她是否有健康問題需要你能隨時做應急處理。在你們開始約會之前，爲了以防萬一，你要了解她的病症情況並且隨時做好照顧她的準備。These conditions and others like them also will have a significant role in your future relationship with her if you both become serious about each other. You will be called upon to learn how to monitor her appearance for signs of illness and act quickly to help her if she becomes ill. If this is something you can handle, you can ask her out and face the likelihood that you will at some point deal with her health issue. If you cannot, it would be best that you avoid asking her out entirely.
如果你們正式確立關係了，以上列舉的及其他類似的病症對你們以後的相處來說都非常重要。你需要了解如何從她的面色看出發病徵兆，一旦判斷髮病，能夠快速應對。如果你能處理上述情形，那麼你可以約她出去，也可以處理日後當她身體出現狀況時要照顧她的情況。如果你難勝此任，那麼幹脆不要約她了。This information also comes into play if you want to have children some day. If she has a hereditary illness that could be passed onto your children, you at least will be prepared to seek out genetic counseling or other medical advice if your relationship progresses to that point. Health challenges at any age can determine the outcome of your dating chances with the girl you like. You can prepare now by finding out what, if any, conditions she may be dealing with right now.
如果你日後想要孩子，這些信息也能派上用場。如果她的病具有遺傳性，可能傳給你們的孩子，那麼在你們的關係走到這一步時，你至少應該做些遺傳或者醫療諮詢尋求幫助。無論在任何年齡，健康問題都會影響你和心儀女孩的約會。你可以從現在開始，瞭解她的健康狀況。dren
1.孩子
Couples should share the same mindset when it comes to having children. Many people begin relationships and reach the point of wanting to get married, only to find out that one party abhors the idea of becoming a parent. Even if at first it seems like you both are just living in the moment and seeing where fate takes you, you should investigate how open she is to being a mother at some point in the future. You can decide whether or not to ask her out based on her answer and how well her answer matches your own intentions.
對於生小孩與否，夫妻需要想法一致。很多人談戀愛以後，甚至到了結婚的時候才發現另一半根本不想要小孩。就算一開始你們只活在當下，不考慮以後，你也需要弄清楚她將來對“母親”這個角色是否接受。你可以根據她的回答以及你們的契合程度決定是否要約她出去。It is also important to remember that few people change their minds about this important topic. If you want to have kids, but she does not, you should not continue to date her with the belief that she will be more receptive to kids in the future. This hope more than likely will lead to your being heartbroken. Rather than set yourself up for disappointment, you should find out this important detail and avoid asking her out if she says she does not want children.
切記：生育觀念很重要，一旦形成，很少人會改觀。如果你想要孩子而她只想過二人世界，你抱着她未來會改觀的想法和她繼續交往也是徒勞。懷抱着此種願景，未來你只會更加心碎。與其等待着失望，倒不如一開始就弄清楚她的想法，如若與你背道而馳，還是不要約她出去了。Similarly, if you do not want kids, but she does, you should avoid stringing her along in the relationship. After you find out that she wants kids, you should tell her your side of the argument and politely decline asking her out if she cannot abide by your mindset. You both may be disappointed, but you also save yourself more intense grief later after your hopes for parenthood are dashed. You also spare any kids you might have from being raised by one parent who in reality would have preferred to remain childless for the rest of his or her life.
同樣的，如果她想要孩子而你不想，你也不能爲了和她交往而有所欺瞞。在你發現你們想法不一致時，你應該告訴她你的觀點，如果她無法認同，你應該打消約她出去的念頭。也許你們都會很失落，但是這比日後承受做父母的夢破碎時的痛苦要好的多。同時，你也挽救了一個孩子，如果他的父親或母親並不想生他，他的成長會很痛苦。A myriad of information can determine how well you and the girl you like can build a relationship with each other. Before you ask her out, you must determine these details. The answers to these questions can impact you legally, financially, and emotionally. You can spare yourself a future of turmoil or alternatively look forward to a life of happiness by having these facts on hand before you ask out the girl in which you are interested.
種種你要了解的信息可以決定你和心儀女孩能否建立關係。在你約她出去之前，你必須作出決定。對以上問題的回答可以法律角度,經濟角度,情感角度影響你。可以讓自己避免未來陷入麻煩，又或者可以做好準備，確認好她的想法，約她出去，開始幸福的生活。審校：小飛俠 編輯：Freya然 校對：丸子
